Don’t Be One of Those People Who Wondered What Happened

by Lisa H.

As said by Mary Kay Ash, there are three types of people in this world: those who make things happen, those who watch things happen and those who wonder what happened. I have made things happened, watched things happened and wondered what happened. My advice to you is not to be one of those people who wondered what happened.

I have a friend who has been teaching at the local high school for the past 8 years. He is also a paid assistant on the track team. Day in and day out, year after year, he quietly performs his teacher and track duties. Today he was telling me about this other teacher, john, who in one year, managed to not only become a paid assistant on the track team in the events that my friend previously had, but a leader at the school and a favorite of the administration.

My friend was completely baffled by this. He wondered how could someone in such a short time have such an impact when he had been there for 8 years. He said to me “I just don’t know what draws people to him.”  When he said that, a couple of things occurred to me. One, it is not the amount of time that you are at a job that matters, what matters it is what you do with that time. And two, it may not be that people were drawn to him as much as it was what he has asked for.

You know what I am talking about. That person in the company that started a year after you who gets promoted before you. You know, the one who seems to get selected for all the special projects. Let me let you in on a little secret, they are most likely working behind the scenes. I don’t mean this in a shady, devious sort of way. They are simple building relationships and asking for what they want.

Sure, there are those cases of people who get noticed out of the blue, but for the most part, when you want something, you have to ask for it. My guess is that John wanted more responsibility and so he went after it. Fear often keeps people from asking for what they want. For me, fear of rejection kept me from reaching out for help from other bloggers in my niche and I paid the price of lower visibility.

The point here is don’t be someone who wondered what happened. There are no secrets, no magic. It is about taking action–finding out exactly what you want to do and then setting yourself on the path to do it.

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