Have you ever heard the saying “if at first you don’t succeed, then try, try again?”
But should you always try? What if you are performing an activity you are no longer interested in? What if you want to use your time and talents in a different way?
Sometimes quitting is one of the best decisions you can make. I’m not talking about stopping at the 25th mile of a marathon (26.2 miles) because you’re tired. I am talking about ending a relationship or work situation that no longer satisfies you. There is no point in sticking with something just to be deemed not a quitter.
But sometimes it is hard to know whether to change direction or push on. So, let’s look at some signs that will help you gauge when enough is enough and it’s time to change direction.
1. You don’t like what you’re doing
If you don’t like what you’re doing it is time for a change. Let’s take your job for example. Ask yourself if the stress and discontentment of your predicament are worth it–year after year dragging yourself to work, knowing you have 10, 20 or 30 years to go before retirement. Is that what you want for your life?
Find out what kind of work would make your soul sing and begin putting things in place to achieve that. Do you need to go back to school? Do you need any special certifications? Are there other positions in your company that fit your skill set? An average person spends 8-10 hours a day at work; wouldn’t it be great if those hours were enjoyable.
This isn’t to say there aren’t day to day tasks you may not enjoy doing, like washing dishes, grocery shopping or doing laundry, but those aren’t what I’m talking about. I’m talking about those things that have the power to lift your soul up or bring it down in a profound way, like your job, your relationships and activities you participate in.
2. You are too comfortable
Be honest with yourself. Have you become too comfortable in your life? Do you follow the same routine week after week with little or no variation? Do you have the same thoughts or say no to opportunities to grow? Or have you let your health decline by eating poorly or not exercising? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you have become too comfortable and it is time for a change.
Variety is what keeps life interesting. Variety is what keeps passion alive. Variety is what gives you meaning and purpose. Begin to get out of your rut by saying ‘yes’ to opportunities outside of your comfort zone. You don’t want to spend your whole life experiencing nothing more than the 4 blocks around you. I know I’m being dramatic, but I’m sure you get the point. “Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away” ~unknown.
3. You are doing too much for others
We are taught to give selflessly, often at our own expense. Although giving to others is important, there comes a point when you have to say enough is enough and put yourself first. Many of us struggle with the guilt that follows when we do for ourselves. We grow up thinking caring for our self is selfish.
The word “selfish” is greatly misunderstood and needs replacement. It conjures up negative ideas such as taking without concern for others and being greedy and mean. So, instead of the word “selfish”, use the word “self-care.”
Self-caring is about maintaining your emotional, physical, mental and spiritual well-being. It means listening to your intuition and acting accordingly. It means finding community, connection, support, security, peace and inspiration when you need it.
And when you take care of yourself, you are better equipped to take care of others. You can equate it to the flight attendant on a plane instructing you to put on your oxygen mask before you attend to anyone else. After all, if you aren’t receiving oxygen, what use are you?
If you really want to fine tune your self caring, you’ve got to use your intuition to gain insight into what you’re needing. Take a look at this video for tips on how to tap into your intuition.
4. You are not happy
Not being content with your life is a sure sign something is awry. Ask yourself why you are not happy. Yes, ask yourself that questions and then answer it. What often surfaces for me is a list of things that I deeply want to do and am not currently doing. I want to be better organized. I want to up explore my psychic abilities. I want to love the work I do. I want peace an harmony. I want to feel passionate. Your dreams are just as important now as when you first had them and should not be denied.
Maybe you don’t have time to do all the activities you come up with, but you can find some way to incorporate at least a small portion of them into your life. For example, if you have always wanted to dance, take a dance class once or twice a week.
You see, many people fill their lives with commitments that bring them little to no satisfaction. Life is too short to be lived this way. While we do have obligations that are necessary for our basic day to day living, we should always make time to take care of ourselves.
What is it time for you to stop doing?