“We have always been involved in spiritual evolution. We are spiritual beings, we have always been spiritual beings and we will always be spiritual beings.”~ Gary Zukav ~
Have you ever been in a situation where you thought you needed something from another person?
Maybe you needed money, time, attention or something else. Were you able to get it from that other person? Most likely it depended on what it was. If you needed help moving, a kind word or a listening ear, probably so; but if you needed help raising your self-esteem, becoming happy or cultivating courage, you most likely had to look within.
I, like you, have been in situations where I thought I needed something only another could give me, only to find out it had to be cultivated from within. There are many people on this planet going crazy, desperately trying to find their soul-mate, without realizing they are the one they have been looking for. That another person cannot make you happy, they can only complement or destruct who you already are. The key to creating the life you want begins with taking full responsibility for the life you have now.
Sometimes we look at “responsibility” as being something to avoid, as it is often associated with restriction. But, it is actually the opposite; responsibility allows for more freedom. Instead of allowing circumstances, family, friends or societal pressures to govern the direction of your life, you make the responsible choice to govern your life yourself.
Making choices and the creation process
Our very power comes from our ability to make choices in our lives, from where we live, to where we work, to who we marry to whether we evolve consciously.
Sometimes these choices are easy and other times they are difficult. Many people have awakened as a result of a breakup, serious illness or loss of a loved one. Our experiences, the way we think and how we perceive the world all affect what choices we deem difficult or easy. Difficult choices often come with the fear we will make a wrong choice, thereby creating a painful destiny.
But, there are no wrong choices, only choices and consequences. I think Dr. Phil put it best when he said “sometimes you make the right decision and sometimes you have to make the decision right.” And if you choose a direction that does not suit you, you can always choose another one.
You always have a choice, even if that choice is how you respond to a predicament you really didn’t choose to be in. Nelson Mandela’s grace during his imprisonment was a shining example of this as was the grace of many others who were wrongfully imprisoned and since let free.
You even chose to be here on Earth at this time even though your mind cannot remember making that choice. It wasn’t like someone on the other side said, “Hey! Incarnate into that human body or else!”
You are not your ego
One of the hangups with being human is we think we are our egos. You are not your ego! Your ego is that part of you that wants to be liked and accepted more than anything else in the world. In fact, your ego goes out of its way to please others and meet their expectations.
Your ego is that part of you that places high importance on being better than your fellow humans in whatever way you can. Your ego seeks status, revenge, accolades and other trophies.
You can look at your ego as having a personality of its own. It believes it is real and eternal but knows on some level that it is not and that scares it. Your ego fights to keep itself intact and must be challenged so that it doesn’t take over your life and continue to cause suffering.
If you are not your ego, who are you
You are a student who has incarnated to learn lessons that can only be taught by having a human experience. They are the lessons of love and acceptance, self-esteem, forgiveness and courage. And each of our lessons is uniquely designed for our growth. Some people are met with a lot of joy, peace and contentment right off the bat, while others are faced with one adversity after another.
When we pass away, things will make much more sense to us. But we would like it to make more sense to you now. Think of being human like accessing the Internet — you cannot experience the Internet without a computer or other electronic device, and you cannot experience the Earth school without a body.
Okay, I’m going to get a little metaphysical here, so stick with me. Ghosts or spirits are pure conscious energy that no longer have a physical body. They are not on our frequency range but exist on ranges that are very close to our own, and that is why some people can hear, see and feel their presence. You don’t have to have special powers to have this experience; however, you do have to be open to it.
You see, your physical body oscillates, or vibrates, very slowly. It is also very heavy and dense. This is why we can interact with other slow, oscillating, heavy and dense objects like those here on earth.
So what about our souls?
What is a soul
Our souls do not reside inside our bodies; our bodies are aspects of our souls on missions. Think of it this way: our bodies are the vehicles our souls use to have earthly experiences. Your soul is EVERYWHERE. It permeates every pore, vein, meridian line and thought you have.
When you feel safe and secure, your soul can envelop an entire room; conversely, if you experience fear, your soul will contract to protect the body.
Your soul cannot be seen in the physical world but it is real nonetheless.
Why are we here
We are here to experience who we already are. Did you get that? You are here to experience who you already are. Your ego gets in the way of that—trying to turn you into something you are not. The result is misery and a sense of being unfulfilled.
You will know your ego is running your life if you are more concerned with what is going on outside of you than what is happening on the inside.
As you mature in life, it is natural to begin shedding the layers of your ego. You start to find that things like status, prestige and accolades don’t matter as much as peace, happiness, relationships, love and contentment. This shedding period can be a confusing and tumultuous time for many.
The key is to relax into it and allow love to take over.
I have a lot to say on this topic, and I have much more, but to wrap up this article, I’ll leave you with a quote from Gary Zukav, one of my favorite spiritual teachers ““Eventually, you will come to understand that love heals everything, and love is all there is.”